Sexual Soul Ties

Written by Terri Savelle Foy

Then they cried out to the Lord in their trouble, And He saved them out of their distresses. He brought them out of darkness and the shadow of death, And broke their chains in pieces. (Ps. 107: 13-14)

In our desperate need for love and affection, approval and closeness, many of us find ourselves falling into the arms of the wrong person. The more intimate you are with someone, the stronger that bond becomes. Sexual immorality is having sex with anyone to whom you are not married. God is not trying to withhold good from us by instructing us to withfrain from sex outside of marriage. He has developed certain guidelines for our benefit.

Having sexual intercourse isn’t just a physical encounter, it invades our soul. That’s why God’s instructions for when we are facing sexual temptation are very clear: flee (1 Cor. 6:18). There’s a reason God commanded us to run for our lives from this temptation. The road to recovery from sexual sin seems to be the most painful and requires the longest amount of healing time. 

God’s original plan was for a man and woman to unite sexually as marriage partners. He wants us to have soul ties with our spouse. "For 'the two', He says, 'shall become one flesh'" (1 Cor. 6:16, NKJV).

Once you have given yourself to someone sexually, the Bible says you become one. If you are not married, and that person is not obligated to be faithful to you or the relationship has ended, your soul may feel as if it is being ripped apart.

There really are consequences to casually sleeping around. Therapists call it "emotional anorexia" or learning to survive without relationships. It is damaging to your self-esteem and generates deep feelings of rejection whether you admit it or not.
According to PhysiciansForLife.Org, there are 10 negative psychological effects of sex outside of marriage (for teens and adults):

1. Worry about pregnancy and stds
2. Regret and self-recrimination
3. Guilt
4. Loss of self-respect & self-esteem
5. The corruption of character and the debasement of sex
6. Shaken trust & fear of commitment
7. Rage over betrayal
8. Depression and suicide
9. Ruined relationships
10. Stunting personal development

I would like to add an 11th point to these consequences of casual sex:

11. Separation from God

God is a forgiving God and a loving Heavenly Father; however, sin separates us from Him. When we remain in willful disobedience to God, a wall goes up between us. That’s not a place any of us want to be.

Sometimes we need this wake up call to stop doing what we are doing. We can’t justify it any longer. God is not pleased when we willfully continue in sin. There are consequences too big to pay.

I want you to be brutally honest with yourself if you are engaging in premarital sex or sex outside of marriage and recognize the urgency to stop. Ask the Lord to forgive you. Do not be too ashamed to go to Him. He already knows. Let the tears flow. Get in His presence and confess it to Him.

Sin destroys our lives. We must get it out of us. Whether you initiated it or not. Whether you intended to or not. Release it from your life now. Ask the Lord to forgive you and to remove this residue of sin from your life. If you fall again, don’t let it stop you from going to God. He is not mad at you. He is the only One who can truly give you the supernatural strength to resist and be free.

If you have a strong sexual addiction, then you may need to seek counseling. Do not withdraw from God. Lean on Him like never before. Do not justify sexual behavior because you’ve already yielded to it. It’s never too late to start over, be cleansed, and feel pure.

If you feel as if a sexual relationship has caused you to feel chained to this person and you cannot seem to break free, read this scripture out loud:

The righteous cry out and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (Ps. 34:17-18, NIV)

God promises to deliver those who cry out to Him. The moment you cry out, He comes running. God is a gentleman; He waits for you to call on Him.


Terri Savelle Foy
Web site: Terri Savelle Foy Ministries

Terri earned a Bachelor of Arts degree in French and Communication Studies from Texas Tech University. She was ordained into ministry in January 2000 holding her ministry credentials with Heritage of Faith Christian Center. She currently serves as the Executive Vice President of Jerry Savelle Ministries International. She co-hosts the Jerry Savelle Ministries TV broadcast that reaches a world-wide audience.

The daughter of well-known minister, Jerry Savelle, Terri grew up in a strong household of faith with parents who lived the Bible before her and taught her what it means to live by faith. No matter what she learned in church or heard at home, her own opinion of herself caused her to make many poor decisions resulting in low self-esteem and a very poor self-image. 
Through a series of mistakes, painful relationships and the results of being brokenhearted, Terri now knows how it feels to be free. More importantly, she knows how to get free! She is determined to tell others how they can let go of the things that are destroying them. In her eyes, everyone is important and significant, and she goes out of her way to make people not only feel that, but believe it. She is driven to instill self-respect in people of all ages and backgrounds by igniting personal vision in their lives. She has discovered that nobody can fight your battles for you but you, and if you're going to fulfill your assignment on earth, you better learn to fight back!

She is convinced that every painful experience of your life is a trap set up by satan to distract and destroy you . . . BUT by embracing an intimate relationship with God who is full of mercy – you can be healed every where you hurt.

Terri is now teaching others how to fight their fears with a plan! Through her visual messages, her honesty about her own weaknesses and her funny personality, she proves that everything needed to obtain confidence, self-esteem and self-respect can be found in receiving God's unconditional love. He is the only one who will never leave you nor forsake you.

Terri is stated as saying, "I want to spend the rest of my life tormenting the devil for the torment I allowed him to put me through." She plans to do that by sharing her testimony with others, sharing God's mercy that extends to everyone no matter what their past entails and teaching people how to be disciplined and focused on completing their life assignment down to the last detail! 




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